I have a problem.
I’m too damned nice.
This isn’t a problem in life, necessarily, now that I’ve learned that being nice doesn’t mean being a pushover. But it is a problem in the ring.
I never used to have a problem with aggression in sports. I was aggressive in muay thai sparring at my old club, aggressive in soccer, aggressive in sponge hockey. (And I’m not talking about the type of misguided aggression that leads sports fans to destroy their own city…I’m referring to the healthy, competitive aggression two athletes must have when they face each other down.)
Even when I’m taking a punch or kick these days, I’m smiling, laughing, expressing awe over how good my partner is, and otherwise having a good time. It’s fine to have a good time, but I’m not doing myself any favors by squandering these opportunities to redevelop my aggression.
There’s a saying that goes, “you fight the way you train”. If that’s true, I’m going to be in big trouble unless I do something now to correct it, and believe me, I’m working on it. I’m not sure where my aggression went, but the bitch has got to come back!
How about you, Dear Readers? Are there areas of your life in which you wish you were more assertive? Or, if you engage in competitive sports (muay thai or others), how do you hone your aggression?