Welcome back, Dear Readers.
One Minor Setback was the name of my old volleyball team, but I think it’s an apt title for this blog post. It’s also a timely reminder that, although we may try our personal best to achieve our goals, success is not always within our control.
My kru informed me on Thursday night that I did not make it into the fight camp. No fight camp means no fight in April, and it probably also means the green prajioud test will be postponed until later in the year as well (although I’m trying to convince him otherwise–I’ll let you know how that goes).
When he first warned me that I might not make the cut, I was upset. Mostly because he’d told me that it was best to train for the green prajioud within the context of a fight camp, but it’s pretty hard to do that if you’re not accepted into the camp. And also because I felt I’d more than shown my dedication. I keep applying for fight camps, and I keep getting turned down. It was feeling pretty hopeless.
Thankfully, Kelly took the time to send me a really nice email explaining his decision. It was so nice that I feel much better about it, and optimistic about continuing my training. Without going into too much detail or betraying his confidence, the reasons behind his decision were basically two-fold: 1) there have been women training hard in Level 2 for much longer than I have. They have been waiting for a long time for their chance to fight. I can’t dispute that, and I fully recognize that every woman he chose deserves her spot on the team.
The second reason is that I’m not ready yet. Yes, I have about fourteen or fifteen years of experience, but it’s been off-and-on. There were times I was without club or coach, and others when I settled for rec-league level training. It’s been a long time since I sparred, and I confess I’m a bit nervous about it. I’m also recovering from a knee injury. I fully accepted these limitations when I applied for fight camp, and was confident I could overcome them with 11 weeks of hard, fight camp training. But is it a good idea to give me more time to train before I fight? Yes, definitely.
The dojo Kelly and I started training at was ran by a man who was a genius when it came to martial arts. He was phenomenally skilled, and very charismatic. But when it came to sending his students into battle, he often didn’t seem to put much thought into it. People fought before they were ready. They fought when they were much too young. They fought opponents who were way more experienced. People got hurt. A lot. Kelly is different. His fighters tend to be very well-prepared, if not over-prepared (if such a thing is possible), and as such, even his first-time fighters don’t behave like first-time fighters. They don’t flail around and panic, pummeling their opponent with out-of-control punches. They’re savvy–they seek out weaknesses, and then move in for the kill. While I don’t think a coach can make you a fighter–you either have that instinct or you don’t–Kelly does very well at honing that instinct in the people who do have it.
So, April will not be my month. October or November will be. The good news is–I’ll be much better prepared when the time comes to fight. The bad news is–I’m now looking at almost a full year of brutal training instead of a few months.
I’m going to need all the support and encouragement I can get. Who’s with me? 😉
I’m always in your corner. You’re the strongest person I know, and you can not only handle the situation but kick its ass.
I’m sorry to hear that you didn’t make it into the camp. You’ve always spoken highly of Kelly so I’m glad you are simply postponing your goals on his decisions and advice rather than giving up on them. Good luck with your training: it wouldn’t have stopped – camp or otherwise.
Sorry to hear it, Holli, but you are just the kind of spirit that works it until it’s done! You have amazing will and determination, and those are the two things that really take a person forward in any industry. “Next time,” is the mantra of a winner. I’m pulling for you!
I know exactly the feeling you are describing about wanting to be at a goal via the quickest route possible. I suffer from that same disease. I think you have a healthy positive attitude about the refusal, as disappointing as that news must have been. I agree with Elspeth…. make it a motivator. The goal won’t come as quickly as you would like but it will still come.
Hang in there. It will all be worth it.
I’m pulling for you too, Holli. In all the time I’ve known you you have never given up. It may take time but you will get there.
I really appreciate all of your kind words and encouragement. I will definitely not let you down! Thanks so much for being here.
Kick ass now or kick ass later – either way there will be much ass kickin happening in your future 😀
Thanks, Niki. Love you! 🙂
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Thank you, Anonymous! That’s very kind of you to say.