Hello Dear Readers,
Do you respond best to positive or negative motivation? When you have a difficult task ahead, would you rather someone gently encourage you through it, cheering you on all the way, or scream in your face and threaten you until the job was done?
I’m sure none of us are looking for a negative boss, but what about when it comes to physical training? Tough, nasty coaches–ones that seem to be cut from the same cloth as drill sergeants–are legendary. Jillian Michaels from The Biggest Loser is the perfect example of a “tough love” trainer, and she definitely gets results. She also gets a lot of criticism for being too harsh. While that show is inspiring, I’m amazed that it manages to avoid seriously injuring the participants.
When it comes to Level 2, KWest muay thai students have both a “good cop” coach and a “bad cop” coach. The good cop still teaches a difficult class, but he is supportive, encouraging, gentle, and unfailingly kind. He wants you to feel positive during his classes and leave on a high–pumped, encouraged, and knowing that you did your best.
The bad cop instills fear. He screams at you, catches you off guard, mocks you if you’re slacking (or if he thinks you’re slacking), and has no compunctions about hitting you upside the head. Forget about water breaks. Forget about everything, actually. The only thing you can focus on is survival.
My question to you is: which method works best? Which one do you prefer? While I look forward to the positive class and dread the negative one, I probably am pushed harder in the latter. And when it comes to my sport, I have to remember that my opponent isn’t going to be kind. The best time to develop a thick skin is before you step into the ring.
But what do you think? Do you have to be “mean” to get good results?