|I love this pic from my fight, because it shows how
alone you truly are when you step into that ring.
Hello Dear Readers,
You know that saying ‘do something everyday that scares you?’ Well, that might be taking the concept of daring to the extreme, but I think there’s something to it.
Daring is an essential component of living a life less ordinary. I’m willing to bet that your last big triumph required you to be brave, to step outside your comfort zone and make the world sit up and take notice.
Maybe you had to ask that beautiful woman on a date. Or quit your job in order to write full time. Perhaps you traveled to a foreign country by yourself or decided to go back to school.
Life is full of choices. We can take the easy path, following in the footsteps of the millions who have walked there before us. Or we can blaze a new trail, which may be scary and treacherous but is always innately worth it.
One of the most daring things I’ve done to date is fight in the ring. It took me years to get to that point, and while I can blame my coaches for abandoning me, the truth is, I just never felt ready. There was always a move I had yet to perfect, a bad habit I had to overcome. Finally, I stumbled upon the simple truth.
No one is ever ready.
If people waited to be completely ready to have children, it would never happen. Same with almost any major decision or life change, and such is the way with fighting.
So I swallowed my fear and did what I needed to do to get accepted into my dojo’s fight camp. I don’t think there was a single training session that didn’t terrify me–I was scared of getting hurt, scared of hurting others, of looking foolish, of failing. The list went on and on. I spent half of one boxing class crying in the bathroom because the pressure was just too much. But you know what? I survived.
And I had my fight, something that had been on my bucket list for too many years to count. I didn’t win, but in the end, that didn’t matter. By being daring and facing my fears in the ring, I became stronger at life.
Obviously you don’t need to kick box to be daring. Almost every day there is an opportunity to be brave, to venture out of that comfort zone and try something new.
My latest act of daring is submitting one of my novels to agents and publishers. While sending off some emails and letters doesn’t seem that bold on the surface, it is a huge step for me. It’s saying I’m willing to overcome my fears of rejection. That my desire to be a novelist is bigger than my fear of getting hurt. It’s a big thing for me to put myself up on the chopping block again, ready and willing to receive dozens of letters that begin with, “thank you for your submission but…”
But in the end, it’ll be worth it.
When was the last time you were daring? What would you really like to do or try if fear wasn’t holding you back?
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