Happy New Year!
Sorry I haven’t been making the rounds lately. I didn’t plan on taking time off over the holidays, but as it turned out, I needed to. I completely crashed, but I’m slowly coming back to life.
I hope everyone enjoyed the holiday season and began 2016 feeling refreshed.
Some of you may remember me posting about an ingenious program offered by life coach Tiffany Han. The goal of the program is to get 100 rejection letters – the idea being that if you actually seek rejection, you will no longer be afraid of it. Obviously you’d have to submit a lot to come close to getting 100 rejections, thereby greatly increasing your chances of success.
While I didn’t sign up for Han’s formal program, I saw no reason why I couldn’t go after the rejections on my own. So on January 1, 2015, I resolved to submit my work 100 times during the year – a huge increase over what I would normally send out.
I’m proud to say that this is one resolution I kept! It took me until December 31, but I did put myself out there 100 times, which included submitting my novel for reviews and entering contests.
Did I receive 100 rejections?
Hardly. Based on my rudimentary calculations, I’d need to submit about 270 things in order to get 100 rejections (if there were no acceptances in the mix). From submitting 100 times, I collected a paltry 36 rejections, but more can be assumed from non-responses.
While this wasn’t the year I got a shiny new agent or a six-figure book deal, I definitely benefited from putting myself out there.
- I received more full and partial requests for my novels than ever before (at one point, I had over 20 partials/fulls in the hands of agents and editors) and a lot of them are still under consideration;
- My novel definitely got more reviews than it would have if I hadn’t asked;
- Some of the reviewers I reached out to became friends;
- I got at least two new freelance clients;
- I received some incredible feedback that will make my novels stronger. One agent spent over 30 minutes talking to me on the phone, while others took the time to write pages of suggestions. Rather than be discouraged, I was incredibly grateful for their insight.
- I even had to make some of my own rejections, including one publisher and one agent.
Best of all, I am no longer afraid of rejections. Weird as it sounds, it felt awesome each time I could add another one to the list. They no longer send me into a spiral of self-doubt and self-loathing.
I’ll definitely do it again. I already have two rejections and one success in 2016 – not bad for January 6th.
How do you feel about rejections? Do they upset you, or do you look at them as steps leading you closer to success? What’s the worst/weirdest rejection you’ve ever received?
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